Queen bees and wanabees...

"Watch your Back!"

The word 'bitch' has gained so many meanings over the past few years. Originally it was used to refer to a female dog. It was then developed as an insult, used towards girls and often used by girls! In today's society, however, it has developed yet another meaning and is now used as a verb. For example we might say 'to bitch' as in to talk about someone behind their back in a negative way.

So that's all the definitions out the way; I have to ask...is it just me or do girls have some sort of genetic malfunction which means they have to bitch and have to be unnecessarily rude and mean!? Don't get me wrong, in posing this question I'm not claiming that I have never bitched before, in fact it is because I do bitch, that I am asking this question. I realized recently, and was quite scared, that when amongst friends, I actually like bitching! Surely this isn't right?! In fact I strictly remember one of my friends exclaiming, 'I love a good bitch!'

I find it increasingly hard to understand why girls indulge in this behavior so much. There are actually books being published which are aimed at parents with girls and instruct them on how to help their daughter survive the cliques so clearly established in today's society. It's crazy!!

Upon coming to university the problem of cliques became so clear to me. I had literally been there for three days and I looked around and girls were jumping all over each other acting like they'd known each other for years, it was quite sickening! I don't see the need to be so fake and over the top and so refuse to take part, however, it would seem that this sort of behavior is the only way to gain access to these groups of friends.

The 'hierarchy of social importance' is ever present within today's youth culture and the 'high school bitchiness culture' was highlighted most recently in the movie 'Mean Girls'. A film based on the book 'Queen bees and wannabees' which focuses on the problem which bitchiness is causing within our society.

What worries me is that girls now enjoy bitching, it's become so normal that the feeling of guilt has completely disappeared. Girls feel that they need to be mean and ruthless in order to claw their way up the social hierarchy. There are actually websites which give girls tips on how to be the mean, bitchy, popular girls. There are countless blogs devoted to bitching, constantly commenting on how bad a certain person looked or basically highlighting all of their bad points. Have we lost the ability to focus on the good before the bad? It is easy to answer yes when there are forums and websites devoted to answering the age old question 'Why are girls so bitchy?'

Many people have asked the question and yet up to now no one has been able to answer it. Bitchiness has become built in to our society and with girls constantly striving to become the 'queen bee' a girls world has literally become a survival of the meanest!!